Love Making Positions and Techniques...
- Key to Sexual Enjoyment

Many men and women find the traditional love making positions or sex styles to be stereotyped and unexciting. Due to this feeling of dissatisfaction with the usual sex positions, many persons constantly seek whatever information they can get on new and exciting love making styles.

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Good and Bad Sex

It should be noted, however, that many sex positions that are widely acclaimed in many sex education journals and which most persons frequently fantasize about constitute very bad sex. Why?

Well, it takes two to tango, does it not? As such, any sex position that excludes the comfort and enjoyment of one of the parties involved in the act constitutes bad sex. In other words, bad sex is any sex position that does not result in the mutual enjoyment and satisfaction of the two parties involved in the sex act.

So, what constitutes good sex?

Ok. Here is what constitutes good sex. A good sex practice is not about whatever sex positions may be adopted by couples making love. It is all about the techniques leading to the actual copulation.

Thus, a good sex practice should incorporate a broad spectrum of related activities like kissing, a whole lot of touching and gentle teasing and stroking of highly sensitive parts, as well as hugging real close - with sex at the tail end of the line.

It goes without saying, therefore, that romance should be a major part of the sex act.

While some persons have found that having dinner together in addition with some alcohol or red wine in a candle-lit room, with soft music playing at the background sets the perfect mood for sex, others do not make such elaborate preparations for love making. They just engage in sex anytime the mood hits them.

Experimenting with Various Sex Positions

As far as the business of sex is concerned, experience is the best teacher. So, throw away the widely acclaimed sex journals. Go ahead and experiment as far as your imagination would take you.

Hence, lovers should be in a better position to determine what works best for them as sex partners, rather than follow rigidly to a manual - probably written by persons with frustrated sex life. What should be topmost in their minds should be the mutual enjoyment of the exercise by both parties.

Similarly, as couples experiment with various sex styles, safety should be given serious consideration. This is because some sex positions require that the couple both stand on their feet or make love in the kitchen or in the bathroom. When this is the case, at least one of the couple should hold on to his or her partner for support while the other ensure that the standing position is safe for both partners. Also, they should ensure that they are reasonably comfortable with that chosen love making position.

There are so many sex styles that lovers and married couples can experiment with. We are going to consider some of them in this write-up while leaving the greater part of them to the reader's imagination.

Traditional Sex Style

The traditional man-on-top sex style is often referred to as the “missionary” position. This is perhaps because of its straightforwardness. The man simply lies on top of the woman counterpart in this position, while the woman lies down facing the man. There is nothing extraordinary about this position.

With this position, the male does all the work involved in copulation. If you decide to adopt this method, the female must endeavour to be as active as possible. Failing to do this, most males are instantly turned off by an inactive female partner.

The major advantage of the man-on-top position is that there is maximum contact between the man and the woman, increasing the excitement of copulation.

There are variations to this position. One variation is the man and woman lying on their sides.

On the other hand, the couple could also experiment with the woman-on-top style where the woman lies on top of his male counterpart and become the active partner in the love making exercise. Thus, the man's movement in this position is largely restricted.

Other Sex Styles

Other love making positions includes the couple both standing on their feet (facing or backing each other) and also the male straddling his partner while carrying her (standing or sitting down).

There are variations to the sex style involving the couple standing on their feet. One variation is that the couple face each other, the male stands on his feet and carry his female partner, supporting her buttocks with his two hands.

In this position, the female holds on to her partner around the midriff or his neck for support.

In order to achieve some level of movement, he must be strong enough to move his partner's buttocks up and down his turgid libido.

Another variation of this position is that the couple back each other, while the male penetrates his partner from behind. This position is often referred to as the “doggy” position. The female may stretch out or bend backwards towards his partner in this position.

There is limitation of bodily contact with the couple backing each other. But there can still be a lot of activity by both parties, with the male doing much of the movement and the female pushing backwards to her partner.

Lovers can also experiment with sitting down while copulating. The female sits on her male partner with her legs spread out as her partner sits on a chair or wooden stool.

Additionally, the female can alter this position by turning her back to her partner. In this position, the female is the active party. But the male can also contribute greatly to sexual satisfaction by moving his hips and caressing his partner. The advantage with this love making position is that maximum body contact is maintained by the lovers.

With the above sex styles, there is restriction of movement – especially with the male carrying his partner while standing on his feet- and a high degree of motion limitation.

Lovers who are eager to experiment with new sex positions can experiment with these sex styles either in the kitchen or in the bathroom. However, great care should be taken that there are no sharp objects lying around that can lead to unwanted accidents during the heat of passion.

Similarly, while making love in the bathroom, lovers should be particularly careful that they do it sitting down upright in a bath. If they have to stand on their feet, they should be very careful to hold on to something for support. It is a fact that accidents during love making occur more frequently in the bathroom due to the slippery nature of the bathroom floor.

As mentioned earlier in this article, there is nothing absolutely wrong with experimenting with a variety of sex positions. However, safety should be uppermost in the minds of the excited love birds.

Love Making Techniques

This leads us to love making techniques.

Love making techniques should not be confused with love making positions or sex styles. While a sex style or position is just about a particular sex position or style, on the other hand, love making techniques involves everything related to the sexual act.
Some love making techniques that lovers can adopt to increase sexual enjoyment includes:

1. Communicating verbally or with the eyes during sex. Lovers do not have to make love like deaf and dumb persons. Where words are not absolutely necessary, the eyes can be used well by the partners looking deep into each other's eyes while smiling to indicate love and mutual enjoyment.

After all, having sex is not something to feel guilty or ashamed about.

2. Do not be afraid to touch and caress each other. Lovers should touch each other a lot during sex even when there seems to be absolutely no reason to.

Touching a partner, especially during sex, communicates very tender emotions and feelings of love.

DVDs on Love Making Techniques

Thinking of improving your sex life? The sample DVDs listed below can help in this regard.

• Playboy - Making Love Vol. ll - Tant... by Jennifer Burton
• Fons & Porter's Love of Quitting by Marianne Fons
• 22 Sex Secrets, Tips & Turn Ons
• Tips for Great Sex and Greater Sex by Philip Holder PhD

Mutual Agreement

Just as it is with every other thing in a love relationship, experimenting with new sex positions should be discussed well ahead of the actual sex act. This kind of open and frank discussion about sex makes it natural to engage in and removes any inhibition that both partners or one of them may have about it being "sinful".

Similarly, discussing sex between couples should be as easy to do as discussing what to prepare for dinner is. If there is no inhibition about that, why should there be any inhibition whatsoever about discussing sex or experimenting with new love making styles?

As a matter of fact, the level of openness at discussing sex among couples is a likely pointer to the degree or extent of love in a relationship. No topic should be too difficult to discuss for lovers who truly love themselves. ( see love calculator for more on the pointers to a healthy love relationship)

Ultimately, discussing sex by lovers before the actual sex act creates anticipation and excitement between the couple. Hence, having something new to look forward to about sex increases the likelihood of the couple deriving the maximum enjoyment and satisfaction from the newly experimented love making position.

Key to Sexual Enjoyment

What is the key to sexual enjoyment?

Irrespective of the love making position that lovers may adopt during sex, the key to sexual enjoyment and satisfaction is NOT based upon any one particular sex style. It is based upon the strong desire by both partners to give pleasure and render the maximum satisfaction to each other.

Thus, the key to sexual enjoyment is all about giving the utmost pleasure and not receiving. Pleasing one's partner during sex should be the ultimate goal of any successful lover, male or female.

Lovers, especially married couples, should care about their partner's needs and feelings during sex. It is part of responsible behaviour to express concern as to the sexual satisfaction of one's partner during sex. Rather, it is not only responsible behaviour, it is an expression of love by the couple, married or not.

Hence, responsible couples should not behave like animals or promiscuous people otherwise popularly known as "players" who are often selfish and primarly seek to satisfy their own sexual gratification alone.

Consequently, let your love shine through in all aspects of your relationship, including during sex.

Is it for any good reason that sex is commonly referred to as love making? Thus, why not show it that you are indeed making love during sex by ensuring the sexual satisfaction of your partner? And the funny thing about it is that you end up being totally satisfied yourself by satisfying your partner.

It is indeed a proven fact that there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.

But, what do you think should be done if a partner is sexually frigid - that is, a partner is not excited about sex or enjoy the sexual act?

Relationship Quiz: What do you think should be done if a lover is sexually frigid or unexciting?

Sex is an activity which everyone should enjoy and derive the maximum pleasure from with the love of their lives. But there are a few people who do not enjoy sex and even feel disgusted by it.

So, what do you think should be done about this if a person suddenly finds that his or her partner does not share the same enthusiasm about sex with that person? Let me know your viewpoint on this.

If you also have an interesting great story to relate about a particular favorite sex position. Share it! Do not feel any shame about discussing it.

Your views are highly welcomed.

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