How to Woo a Girl and
Get Her to Say YES!

Have you been contemplating about how to woo a girl for some time now? Well, contemplate no more! Today is your lucky day; as this page describes in detail the step-by-step blueprint for wooing a girl and getting her to say yes!

Why Wooing a Girl is Difficult

Certainly, wooing a girl and getting her to say yes is oft-times not an easy task. And why is that? For two simple reasons. Well, for one, it would appear that girls in general were designed to play hard-to-get (l may be wrong, but this is my sincere opinion) when it comes to the game of wooing a girl.

Additionally, many people in some cultures regard it as improper behaviour for a girl to be the first to approach a boy for the purpose of having a relationship. Girls are, thus, not expected to indicate interest in a boy they admire and like as it is viewed as unladylike and being too forward on the part of the girl.

So, the society encourages girls to play hard-to-get; as a way of increasing their value or worth in the eyes of interested wooer.

Hence, it is believed that giving in too easily to the wooing advances of a boy "cheapens" a girl and may make the boy have a low esteem of her.

Consequently, despite the hue and cry about the equality of the sexes and women liberation, girls and women still prefer to be the docile partner when it comes to the business of who woos who.

Yes, contrary to what many folks would like to believe, male chivalry still holds sway; and what constitute proper and improper ladylike behaviour is largely dictated by this age-old tradition.

On the other hand, questions like "how long should a girl who desire to put up an appearance of decency in the eyes of the society keep a persistent wooer at bay until she eventually give in to him?" remain unanswered. So, the girl finds it confusing as to how long to put up the facade and when should be the "right time" to say yes to the wooer so as not to appear "cheap" in his eyes.

Another reason why wooing a girl appears difficult nowadays is that many boys and young men are timid and shy by nature when it comes to approaching total strangers; even if those strangers happen to be cute girls that they find themselves attracted to. So, when the opportunity present itself to woo the girls in question, they pass up such opportunities and prefer to suffer in silence.

Thus, they notice the beautiful girls pass by them daily. They are attracted to them; but when it comes to the crucial moment, they cannot seem to muster up enough courage to take the first step to meet the girls. And even if they manage to approach the girls, they get so scared that they simply cannot bring themselves to utter the first words.

Shaking all over with trepidation and almost peeing in his pants, the timid wooer cannot bring himself to look at the face of his female escort, much less say a simple "hello" to the bemused girl.

ls it any wonder then that people who are shy tend to give themselves fewer chances of starting new relationships or even maintaining old ones?

Overcoming Shyness and Timidity in Wooing a Girl

Without a doubt, shyness and timidity are hindrances to successfully wooing a girl and getting her to say yes.

So, what do you do if you have the problem of shyness and timidity when approaching a girl for the purpose of wooing her and starting a relationship with her? As a matter of fact, how do you overcome such timidity and anxious moments?

Speaking on the subject of overcoming shyness and timidity in wooing a girl, http://kidshealth.org mentioned five ways to overcome shyness and timidity in wooing a girl. They are as follows:

• "Start small with people you know. Practice social behaviors like eye contact, confident body language, introductions, small talk, asking questions, and invitations with the people you feel most comfortable around. Smile. Build your confidence this way. Then branch out to do this with new friends, too.
• Think of some conversation starters. Often, the hardest part of talking to someone new is getting started. Think of conversation openers, like introducing yourself ("Hi, I'm Chris, we're in the same English class"), giving a compliment ("That jacket looks great on you"), or asking a question ("Do you know when our report is due?"). Being ready with a conversation starter (or a few) makes it easier to approach someone.
• Rehearse what to say. When you're ready to try something you've been avoiding because of shyness — like a phone call or a conversation — write down what you want to say beforehand. Rehearse it out loud, maybe even in front of the mirror. Then just do it. Don't worry if it's not exactly like you practiced or if it's not perfect. Few of the things more confident-seeming people do are perfect either. Be proud that you gave it a go. Next time, it'll be even better because it will be easier.
• Give yourself a chance. Find group activities where you can be with people who share your interests. Give yourself a chance to practice socializing with these new people, and get to know them slowly. People who are shy often worry about failing or how others will judge them. Worries and feelings like these can keep you from trying. If self-criticism plays a role for you, ask yourself whether you'd be this critical of your best friend. Chances are you'd be much more accepting. So treat yourself like your own best friend. Encourage yourself instead of expecting to fail.
• Develop your assertiveness. Because shy people can be overly concerned with other peoples' reactions, they don't want to rock the boat. That doesn't mean they're wimpy or cowardly. But it can mean they are less likely to be assertive. Being assertive means speaking up for yourself when you should, asking for what you want or need, or telling other people when they're stepping on your toes."

How to Woo a Girl with Ease

It is obvious from the foregoing that the key to overcoming shyness and timidity in wooing a girl is to endeavour to remove anxiety from your mind. You need to realise too that the girl may be as anxious as you are while approaching her.

Your main preoccupation, therefore, should be to put her completely at ease and in a receptive frame of mind for her to listen to what you have to say. Thus, your objective should be to break down her defences and gain her complete confidence and trust as a friend and not a foe.

So, the solution is simply to forget about your own anxiety and concentrate all your efforts at making her relaxed and open to receive you. l assure you that once you have succeeded in doing this, 50% of the wooing job is completed.

Additionally, by removing attention from your own fear of failure and focusing all attention on putting the girl completely at ease, you may find that all your own anxieties and timidity naturally disappear into thin air with seemingly little or no effort on your part.

So, how do you put her at ease?

Approach her with confident strides. lt tells her that you are sure of yourself, of what you want and also know how to go about getting it. Girls generally respond more readily and easily to boys who appear to be in total control of themselves and every given situation than to boys who at first sight seem to be completely unsure of themselves.

Once you have her at eye contact, begin a smile from the corners of your mouth and let it widen until you reach her. Let the smile go deeper to the point of softening your eyes.

That smile as broad as it is, together with the softness which should be clearly evident in your eyes is enough to disarm her and put her completely at ease. In other words, your very first words should be a simple smile!

And just in case you did not know it, a smile is a very good body language that convey two things: friendliness and approval.

Immediately she sees that smile, she cannot help it but let down her guard and you succeed in breaking down her defences. Remember too that a smile is infectious. Ask little children and babies. They will tell you!

So, do not be surprised if she smile back at you and wait for your first words. But, if she doesn't smile back, do not hastily conclude that she is not interested and simply say "Oh sorry. l thought you were someone l knew." and walk away.

That would be self-defeatism indeed! Remember that she is no fool. People easily see through any pretence and she would have read you and know that you wanted to woo her but lacked the courage to see it through at the last moment.

Also remember that you are a total stranger to her. So, you have not given her any reasons whatsoever to gain her confidence and trust. Thus, it is part of the wooing process for you to break down her guard and gain her trust enough for her to reward you with a smile; and even laugh at some silly nonsense that you may later whisper just within earshot.

Consequently, if your self-confidence fail you, look at her again and ask yourself whether she is worth the bother. So, is she worth the bother? Is she? If she is, then give it a shot! You wouldn't know if she will say yes or not until you give it a try, will you? Of course not! But, if you become fainthearted at the last minute when the word yes is just behind her lips waiting to be uttered, she would despise you for it, but she wouldn't tell you!

So, even if she does not return your smile, go ahead and woo her. She wants wooing. She needs wooing. And in case you do not know the meaning of wooing, wooing means to "persuade gradually or prevail upon someone to one's side", according to "The Pocket Oxford Dictionary". After all, in our world of today where people are hardly what they appear outwardly, it takes a lot to develop trust in someone who happen to be a total stranger to you.

Consequently, as long as she does not give you a cold shoulder or tell you that she is busy or in a hurry even before you have a chance of getting in your first words, tell yourself - no, convince yourself - that you stand a chance of wooing her and eventually getting her to say yes!

How to Get Her to Say Yes!

Like l said previously, once you have succeeded in putting her in a relaxed and "open-to-buy" mood, 50% of the wooing job is completed. But, you still need to get her to say yes; and that's the tricky part.

lf you cannot get yourself to finish the job by getting her to say yes, then you would have failed miserably. And that is comparable to spending good money to buy an attractive book with a compelling subject - only to find out after reading the first two chapters that it is nothing but a huge scam. How disappointing that would be indeed!

So, do not be like that attractive book on the sales shelve; but with nothing of value to offer. Therefore, endeavour to hold your girl's interest and take charge of wooing her.

So, where do you begin from? Well, it is generally a good idea to begin by introducing yourself. You could say: "Hello. l am Michael Isitere. But, all my friends call me Mike. May l know yours?"

Looking at you with the broad friendly smile on your face, she will probably tell you her name. So, if she does, make a comment about the name. You can say something like this: "Susan? Susan. Oh, that's a lovely name, for a pretty lady. l must confess, your name suits you; like every other thing on you right now."

That should get her to smile a little or even chuckle. But, do not overdo it by referring to how beautiful she is with every comment that you make. That would be counter-productive indeed. You need to remember that you remain a total stranger to her.

But, what if she simply would not tell you her name? Well, she may very well be prolonging the hard-to-get perception that she want you to have of her by making the wooing process a little bit more difficult for you. She may equally be testing you to see how you would react and whether you will show any sign of irritability or even annoyance.

So, be persistent and reason with her that since you have already told her your own name, it simply is not fair for her not to reciprocate your gesture. But, continue to smile and look at her straight in the face as you say this. If she is still not forthcoming with her name, simply go ahead and give her a name yourself.

You can call her "Princess" or "Rose" or some other name that is descriptive of your perception of how beautiful she is. Chances are that if she does not like the name that you give her, she will tell you her real name. However, do not keep hammering on how pretty she is and how you would really love her to be your girlfriend.

Instead, offer her a litte information about yourself in order for you to graduate from being the total "stranger" to a newly-found "friend". You need to realise that the more a girl know about you, the more readily amenable she will be.

You could say something like this: "l operate my own private business."; then pause a little for her to enquire about your line of business.

If she does not ask, simply continue with your introduction by saying something like:

"Well, my private business handle computer networking and general computer maintenance for corporate bodies and individuals alike." So, what next?

That should get her to ask you about how the business is like. Do you love your business? Is the business profittable? But, if she does not ask you anything about your line of business, there is no need for you to continue with how much you love computers and their operations. She may find the monologue very boring.

Additionally, if the place where you met her is not conducive for a chat of about 10 to 15 minutes, do not keep her on her feet for too long. You could offer to take her somewhere private so as to chat a little longer and get to know each other better.

If she raises an objection about going anywhere with you, simply go straight to the point. Do not waste her time and yours by beating about the bush. You can say: "l'm attracted to you, Susan (with a little pause after uttering her name)." Remember that girls are often sentimental about guys calling their names and this should make her warm up to you.

Then continue: "And l would like to get to know you better and possibly be your friend. l would really like that right now - more than anything in the world."

That is the crucial moment when you will know if the good foundation you have laid right from the moment you walked up to her and said "Hello." truly achieved what it was intended to achieve.

However, if she says, "Well, l'm kind of in a hurry right now. Can we do this some other time?", do not insist. Just say, "Alright. How do l see you again? Can l have your number?" lf she exchanges contact numbers with you, then you have won a small victory. It is small because though she has accepted you as a friend that she wish to see again, she has not said anything about being free to have a relationship with you.

On the other hand, if she decide to go along with you to a place where you can have a "chat" together, you can be certain that she is curious to know more about you and may equally be interested in having a relationship with you.

Wooing a Girl - How to Conduct Proper Dating

Going along with you to a secluded place to talk should be your signal that she is gradually becoming wooed. Additionally, take note too that that "little chat" you will have with her is your first date with her. Consequently, you need to conduct a proper dating, otherwise you just might end up ruining your chances of taking the relationship to the next level.

Once there, get her to a secluded spot where you can really talk in private without people listening in. Ask her what to offer her and bring it to her. Also make sure that she is completely comfortable. Thereafter, look for a common ground to get her to loosen up and warm up to you.

Remember that girls and women in general love talking a lot, especially with someone that they have taken into confidence. That is precisely the reason why girls are garrulous and seem unable to stop talking while in the company of their fellow girls. So, be that "fellow girl" to her by encouraging her to talk. Show her that you are a good listener in much the same way that you are an intelligent talker.

So, how do you encourage her to talk?

lf you met her at a party or any other recreational centre, ask her about her impression of the party (if it's at a party), the game (if it's at an organised competition), the food (if it's at a eatery or restaurant) or the place where you met her in general.

The objective or idea is to get her to confide in you her personal opinions and preferences in much the same way that she would confide in a close friend. Is that so difficult to accomplish? Sincerely speaking, l do not think so at all!

What next? Well it is only reasonable that after telling her about yourself for you to want to know about her too. Go ahead and ask her: "So, where are you from?"

But, be careful about asking too many questions as if you are a news reporter looking for some news to report.

Ensure too that you do not prolong the meeting for more than 15 minutes. Let her know that you take your business or job seriously and perhaps the time you met her is business hours.

When you are ready to leave her, you would have given her more than enough value for her time. By so doing, you can be sure that you have become that new-found guy that she would gossip excitedly about when with her cycle of female friends.

Yes, indeed, within a very short time, acting like the true gentleman that you are and following all the rules in the book, you would have succeeded in wooing her completely.

Accept my heartfelt congratulations - because you now have all the information you need to woo a girl and get her to say yes!

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