Five Secrets to Keeping the Love in a Relationship Alive

by Rochman Reese
(Australia)

This article will show you how to keep the love in your relationship alive even after so many years of living together either as married couples or as lovers dating with a view to getting married someday.

Now, imagine this scenario: two persons of the opposite sex meet almost entirely by chance for the first time, develop a fancy for each other, begin a relationship, which start on a slow pace at first, then gather momentum and lead to marriage.

Then, after so many years of living together and having children, they continue to maintain the love and happiness which they had at first at the commencement of their relationship.

Isn't that a huge feat not easily accomplished nowadays? Of course, it is! But, how do couples like the one illustrated above manage to achieve such a feat?

Well, it is almost becoming proverbial for folks to ask me: “What is the secret in keeping the love and passion alive in a relationship after so many years together?” Why?

The reason is because they rightly observe that the love and happiness in my marriage has survived parenting 3 children, countless travels, many financial ups and downs and many of the things that most couple in a relationship experience, both good and bad.

So, how did I manage to achieve such a feat? Yes, what is the secret that helped me to keep the love in my marriage alive even after many years of being married to my spouse?

Well, I am going to give you, not just one secret, but five secrets to keeping the love in a relationship alive. These secrets are as follows:

• Secret 1 - Maintain the passion of falling in love
• Secret 2 - Communicate and share your dreams
• Secret 3 - Create a shared home in your hearts together
• Secret 4 - Let every day have at least one kiss and one playful moment
• Secret 5 - Surround yourself with artworks that radiate love and happiness

Let us now look at these secrets in greater detail.

Secret 1 - Maintain the passion of falling in love

Do you remember when you first fell in love - like the couple in the opening paragraph of this article? Was it an amazing time for you as both your passions burned so brightly that they were visible to everyone around you? Of course during that time, nothing else seemed to matter except the joy of being with the one you loved.

So, what has happened over time? Have you allowed your first love for your partner to grow cold and even die off altogether? If so, what went wrong? Can you revive the love once again and keep the glow of the fire burning brightly? Certainly, this is food for thought, isn't it?

Well, too often, the passion of falling in love initially burn very brightly at the onset of a relationship, then continue for just a short while and then simmer down and fades out altogether when the day to day cares and anxieties of our lives take over. That raw passion diminishing over time is quite natural, as the relationship develops and grows into something greater.

However, it is essential not to let this flame die out completely. How do you do this? Make the time to do fun and romantic things together. Leave the kids at home, leave work where it belongs - at work, leave your friends behind and go spend some “alone” (quality) time together.

Secret 2 - Communicate and share your dreams

Having common goals, dreams and aspirations is very important in keeping the love in a relationship alive. This is because it is these dreams that you share in common that will be the driving force in the relationship.

But, as separate individuals, we will each have dreams that may not be similar in every respects. On the other hand, a truly loving relationship is one wherein there is support and sharing the load in helping your partner achieve their dreams. Similarly, your partner has to assist you in every way possible to actualise and achieve your own personal dreams and aspirations.

Too often though, one person has a dream or a plan, and unconsciously assumes that their partner automatically shares this dream. It is very important to talk and communicate your dreams with your partner. The best way is when you can merge your lives into a shared dream. Understand that when two people dream their lives together, nothing can stand in their way.

Consequently, it is very important for couples in a relationship to communicate and share their individual dreams with each other in order that if there are any areas of disagreements these can be handled in a spirit of love and understanding. Thus, communication is very vital in keeping the love in a relationship alive.

Additionally, do you remember at the onset of your relationship, when you were holding your lover in your arms and talking about your secrets and dreams? Some people manage to merge their dreams together into something which is achievable for both of them, and some let their dreams just fade away and die. This is not right at all. Certainly, a life without dreams is a very sad and dull thing indeed.

Secret 3 - Create a shared home in your hearts together

Do you remember a special shared moment when you felt both of your hearts beating together in perfect synchronicity?

Home is not just a physical space or place. It is a heartfelt space created when two people come together in a state of love and understanding. It is a special place filled with warm and nurturing feelings where both people feel safe and secure.

Like any good home, there must first be strong foundations for a loving relationship to be built on. Over time, each loving action you perform in your relationship adds another brick to your special home.

There is an old expression "Home is where the heart is"; perhaps it means that your home is where your two hearts merge together. This is very vital in keeping the love in a relationship alive.

Secret 4 - Let every day have at least one kiss and one playful moment

Can you remember a moment of childlike perfection when the joy of being alive and with someone you loved filled your being? A time when just being with the person you loved made you want to laugh and filled you with a childlike energy. It is so important never to let a day go by without kissing your partner. (And meaning it too!)

Sharing laughter and playing together is a great way to renew your feelings of love. So make sure that every day you give your beloved a kiss and a smile. It's not always easy, but it is always important - if it is your desire to keep the love in your relationship perpetually burning brighly and alive.

Similarly, a relationship is not something that just happens in a day. It takes time and a great deal of effort to accomplish. Thus, life with your soulmate should be a daily experience over a lifetime.

So every day is highly important and make it count. Strive for at least one playful moment of shared childlike joy in your relationship every single day. If you do this, you will definitely continue to keep the love in your relationship alive from one day to the next.

Secret 5 - Surround yourself with artworks that radiate love and happiness

The experience of Love is priceless. Can you imagine creating a special place in your home that radiates such warm and loving energy?

The right inspirational art will serve as a powerful, daily, visual reminder of the power of love and will encourage you to experience a happier and more loving relationship.

How it works is very simple. What you hold in your mind on a day to day basis determines what you will experience in your life.

By placing loving artworks in a special location in your house, your unconscious mind will start to think more thoughts of love and happiness every time you see them. Gradually, your thoughts become more consciously loving until you find your life and your relationship filled with love and happiness.

When you place these art works about love in your sacred space you will create a special room filled with loving and harmonious energy for both of you to share, a place where only love can enter.

May Your Life be Filled with Love and Happiness!

The secrets explained above is precisely how Sofan and I have managed to keep the love, passion and romance in our relationship burning alive until now.

We have been in this state of love, laughter and marital bliss now for many, many years. You can say that the proverbial "...and they lived happily ever after" has been very true in our case.

Do you not find this reassuring? Yes, you should.

Indeed, if happiness and love in a relationship can still exist for us, then love and happiness can also exist for you as well. Certainly you too can find your soulmate as we have done, in case you are still searching for him or her, and keep the love in your relationship alive for many years to come.

May your life be filled with love and happiness!

About the Author: Inspirational artists, Rochman Reese and Sofan Chan create paintings and sculptures that tells stories about love in a relationship. Share with them your passion for love and romance and see more of their art about love at www.theartofhappiness.net.