The Perfect Relationship Advisor Newsletter - January 2011 Edition:

1. The Top 5 Things You Should Know About Your Partner Before You Say: "Yes, l do!"

2. How to Contribute to this Website

3. A Special Message to Advertisers

4. Latest Love, Dating and Marriage Proposals

5. In Our Next Edition: Special Valentine 2011 Edition - How to Woo a Girl and Get Her to Say Yes! and How to Conduct Proper Dating on the First Outing

1. The Top 5 Things You Should Know About Your Partner Before You Say: "Yes, l do!"

Are you about to say: "Yes, l do!"? Here is my advice to you. Do not be hasty about it. Learn about the top 5 things you should know about your partner before you say: "Yes, l do!" This is because this pertains to who you spend a greater part of your adult life with, "till death do you part". So, if you make a wrong decision about this by doing it hastily, you just might end up being unhappy and miserable all your life!

As a matter of fact, in a recent study conducted by a Non-governmental organisation (In Defence of Marriage - IDEOM), many young men in Africa die before their 45th birthday due to the troublesome wives that they married. (See Marry Your Best Friend for details on this) Now, you do not want to become a part of the statistics, do you? Of course not!

It is against this background that this edition of our Free Love and Dating Tips Newsletter addresses this subject in explicit and breath-taking detail. Ensure that you read this particular edition word-for-word and even re-read it over and over again until you fully digest it before saying: "Yes, l do!" to that special person in your life.

Better still, keep this edition of our free monthly newsletter on true love and dating tips safely tucked away somewhere easily accessible for future reference. You can do this by bookmarking this page. Or, a better option would be to save this page from the file menu in your web browser and keep a monthly reminder of the location of the file in your mobile phone.

The Inevitable Proposal

"Julie, will you marry me?" That is the one billion dollar dream question that every girl longing to get happily married look forward to hearing from her man someday.

And, expectedly, she would simply bask in the glory of the moment and look down at the romantic picture of the man kneeling before her holding an engagement ring in his right hand as he look up into her eyes with anxious anticipation clearly reflected in those tensed eyes of his.

Eventually, she would smile down at him, accept his engagement ring and scream at the top of her voice: "Yes! Yes! Yes! My dear, yes! l will marry you!"

The man would then jump to his feet and embrace her passionately. They would just hold on to each other for a couple of minutes before letting go to stare at each other in the eye and embrace once again, as if their whole existence depend on the warm, passionate embrace.

Different Strokes

Many girls and young women certainly long for such a day as graphically depicted above that they would meet their "Prince Charming", fall in love with him and he would eventually pop the one billion dollar question they have dreamt about all their lives. But, as eager as they are at hearing the question, indeed not many women are quite ready when the question is raised and an immediate answer is required of them.

More often than not, they appear taken aback. Some may even panick and break off the relationship abruptly for seemingly no reason whatsoever. Others may respond as follows: "Please Jeff. Let's not rush this relationship. The relationship is just a couple of months old and you are talking of maarriage. For the love of Mike! l hardly know you well. Please, let's give this relationship some time to mature." And the man would certainly look deflated and disappointed.

Are you a woman who is looking forward to getting married soon? That means that your partner has made a proposal to you to get married to him. lf he has, that's great news indeed. Then you must be making arrangements for your wedding day as you read this.

On the other hand, are you still searching for the ideal partner? Or, are you just recovering from a break up like myself? For that matter, has your past experience made you currently skeptical of going into a relationship ever again? Or, are you contemplating going back to your ex but just do not know how to go about it?

Whatever your relationship status is at present, the fact remains that you cannot go through life all alone. You must of a necessity go into a relationship and get married at some point. It is therefore of utmost importance that you arm yourself well with information about the qualities and personality traits of your would-be dream partner.

It is therefore against this backdrop that this article examines the top 5 things you should take into consideration before going back to your ex or saying "Yes, l do!" to a marriage proposal.

The Top 5 Things To Know About Your Partner

i) His or Her Values and Personal lntegrity

ii) His or Her lncome Source or Financial State

iii) His or Her health

iv) His or Her Goals and Aspirations

v) His or Her Relationship Atmosphere and Personality Traits

Now, let us look at each of these components in detail.

i) His or Her Values and Personal lntegrity

What are your partner's values? Is he or she honest in financial transations? Is your partner's word his or her bond? Can he or she be trusted and relied upon to keep his or her word - in a written agreement or unwritten - in financial matters?

How does he or she view sexual fidelity? Does he or she have other sexual partners at any point during your dating period? lt is very important for a man to be honest in his financial dealings. This not only reveal that the man has strength of character, but is also a pointer of the likelihood of his sexual faithfulness.

The same principle similarly holds true for the women folk. Remember, openness, sincerity and honesty are the hallmark of a healthy relationship.

This also means that your partner should show EAGERNESS in revealing things about him or herself that you wish to know about.

ii) His or Her lncome Source or Financial State

How is his financial position? Is he a good financial manager? Is he self-employed or in a 9-5 employment? Does he earn enough money to sustain himself at present and you when you eventually get married to him? Or, is he always broke financially? Will he be willing to allow you do part-time or full-time work to support the family income?

What is her present source of income? Is she a good manager of money? What personal or professional skills does she have? Will she make a good manager of the home?

iii) His or Her Health

What about his or her physical state of health? Does he or she have a generational health problem or some serious health issues that can be emotionally draining and perplexing during marriage?

What is his or her blood group, genotype and HlV status? Is there any other health concerns that you should know about?

Endeavour to find out as much information as possible about your partner's health long before going into marriage. It is better to err on the side of caution than go into marriage unprepared only to experience a rude shock only a few months after. Just imagine the pain, misery and sadness that would ensue for many years to come!

iv) His or Her Goals and Aspirations, Hobbies and lnterests

What are your partner's goals and aspirations? Do you share similar goals and aspirations with your partner?

Do you share things in common? Do you have common interests in entertainment and other leisure activities? What common hobbies do you have?

Certainly, it is easier to engage in activities together as a couple which are of mutual interest to both of you than in activities which you lack interest in individually.

v) His or Her Relationship Atmosphere and Personality Traits

What is relationship atmosphere? It is the emotion and general attitude, positive or negative, that a person carry along with him or her from one day to the next. This attitude can be very overpowering and disconcerting sometimes, especially where such atmosphere has become emotionally draining and exhausting to result in an unhappy relationship.

Now, let us suppose that one of the parties in a relationship has a positive atmosphere or attitude whereas the partner has a negative atmosphere. At first, the couple may get along just fine - at least to onlookers and those outside the relationship.

But, with the passage of a reasonable time, we soon find that the positivity in the relationship will be gradually eroded and, if care is not taken, may lead to the collapse of the relationship - like a gigantic structure whose foundation has become shaky and no longer able to support it.

And that is precisely why if a partner in a relationship constantly feels unhappy, it can rub off on the other partner negatively - no matter how cheerful and pleasant such a person's disposition may be.

Consequently, what is the emotional atmosphere that your would-be-spouse carry along with him or her from one day to the next?

Is he or she friendly or cheerful? Does he or she have a pleasant disposition and easy to get along with?

For that matter, are you best of friends? Are you chum buddies, almost like an inseparable siamese twins?

Do you find it easy to confide in each other as close friends and confidants do?

As a woman, do you find it easy to yield to his control and advice with full knowledge that he becomes the head of the home when you eventually get married to him?

Does he / she respect your view point and encourage you to express them or does he / she tell you to keep quiet when he or she is talking?

What about his or her personality traits? Among these repulsive personality traits which a person may possess are that he or she is an impulsive liar, a chain smoker, an alcoholic and a compulsive gambler who is indebted to almost all the loan sharks where he/she lives.

Another aspect of this unwholesome personality traits is a lack of personal hygiene. Thus, the person goes about without changing his or her undies for days, goes to bed daily without taking his or her bath and is even promiscuous.

In this wise, what would your answer be to these relationship questions?

• How mature is this person that you desire to engage in a relationship with or get married to? And mind you, maturity does not refer to age alone, but the person's general attitude and opinions about issues relating to love, marriage and family life.
• As a woman, does he have some annoying character that would make you reluctant to be seen with him in public? Consequently, is he the type of person you would be proud to introduce to others as your husband? Mind you, he does not have to be rich, handsome and influential in the society for him to be your "Mr. Right".
• Does he / she smoke or use hard drugs and try to conceal it? This question could tell you that the person has an addiction. So, be perceptive and observant when with him or her.
• Does he / she drink and try to conceal it? This question could tell you that the person has a drinking problem. So, be perceptive and observant when with him or her.
• Is he / she always short of money? This could happen and by paying close attention you could find out whether the person is a good manager of money or not.

I honestly believe that by carefully paying close attention to the top 5 things you should know about your partner before saying "Yes l Do!" as enumerated above, dating couples can save themselves as well as their marriage a load of sadness and grief many years after the marriage day!

Therefore, do not go into marriage unprepared! Be well-informed about your partner before going into marriage!

Further Highly Recommended Reading

lf you need further information on how to find your perfect partner using the only true love calculator on the net, please see the following web page: The Only True Love Calculator on the Internet.

The question of compatibility among dating couples is also considered in the following web page: Compatibility Test Among Dating Couples.

You may also see the December 2010 edition of the Perfect Relationship Advisor's Newsletter. That edition of this monthly newsletter is a sneak peek of the yet-to-be-released book: "How to Achieve the Perfect Blend in Your Relationship", which has been scheduled to be released before the second half of 2011.

That book promises to be the bomb! And l believe that you do not want to miss having a copy of that yet-to-be-released book in your personal library.

As a matter of fact, you have just read a small fraction of that book for free in this newsletter. Don't you consider yourself fortunate? That's because l sure do!

2. How to Contribute to this Website

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5. In Our Next Edition: Special Valentine
2011 Edition -

(i) How to Woo a Girl and Get Her to Say Yes!

(ii) How to Conduct Proper Dating on the First Outing

The first date is a very important point in every love relationship. It is not unusual for the man or his date to express tensed and anxious moments about the encounter. Well, this is absolutely normal.

How to do it the right way and conduct a proper dating on the very first outing is the double-headed focus of the special valentine 2011 edition of the Perfect Relationship Advisor's free love and dating tips newsletter.

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The Perfect Relationship Advocate

P.S.

Certainly, the subject of the role of money in a relationship is a very debatable subject indeed.